Do you have blog commitment issues?

September 22, 2016 Fun Questions 8

Fun Questions LogoJoin me as I ask a Fun Question that’s been on my mind. I’ll give you my take, but I really hope you’ll jump in with your answers too, since I’m really curious to know what my fellow readers and bloggers think! So today’s question is…

Do you have blog commitment issues?

So this question developed from a post I read by Anna @ Herding Cats and Burning Soup. She had this great post – How I Blog – and she talked about how she schedules posts that have a specific day commitment. And I realized, I have blog commitment issues. I called it a phobia in my comment to her, but now I realize, it’s straight up ISSUES!

Once upon a time, when I was a new blogger, I saw people doing blog tours and I thought, “Wow! How cool! I want to do that! I wonder if I could get accepted?” and I got put on all these lists and started signing up for tours and – what do you know?! I got accepted! And then the pressure began. I literally was staying up all night to get a book read and reviewed by the deadline for my post. While in grad school, when I needed to be sleeping or working or homework. Talk about stress! Now, don’t get me wrong, I discovered some great books through tours – one of my favorite authors I discovered through a tour and her book was one of those all-nighters! But the stress turned me off to tours.

And then the awful moment you don’t like a book you’re supposed to review for a tour? Oh man that sucks… because you’ve committed! You’ve told a tour company, who’s promised an author that there’s going to be a certain amount of publicity for their book on that day. And just because I didn’t love the book doesn’t mean I want to hurt the author’s sales and to think that they probably put some serious money into this publicity. And you know that the little spotlight post is going to do no good in comparison to the good review they were counting on and worse yet, it feels phony to post about a book that you didn’t like just because you committed to a tour.

So yeah… the tour commitment stresses me out.

But you can commit to just review books these days by a certain date, not ON a certain date. I think this seems better, but is deceptively worse. Because I get to thinking I have all this time. And then all of a sudden, I don’t. And because I don’t feel an obligation to post on a certain day, I never go through that stressed out reading… and instead, totally fail on my commitment. And every time I see the book waiting to be read I hear this voice in my head “you totally let that author down. What a cheat you are! You should never have accepted that book!” If that doesn’t give you a commitment complex, IDK what will.

So now I’m a this place where I’m technically not accepting books for review. Except I totally still get review books from authors I love (I will read them so fast no commitment necessary), the publishers that send me lists and I request them (they don’t care when I review, it seems as long as I eventually send review links), and every now and then that author that totally disregards my statement that I’m not accepting reviews and sends me an email. And I read it and think, “wow, I might really like that.” But when I respond and accept the book my email usually looks something like this:

Hi AUTHOR,

Thanks for your email. I’m actually not technically accepting books for review right now, because I have more than I can keep up with at the moment. However, your book sounds really interesting and I think I would enjoy it. So if you want to send it, you can. But, I must warn you that I make no promises about when I will actually read it. It could be next week, next month, next year, next decade I’m sorry, I can’t promise more. My feelings will not be hurt at all if you decide not to send the book without a promise of a review in the near future.

Best,
Berls

Amazingly, I have not had one author that received that email NOT email me their book. Which shocks me, but at least I’m commitment free. Because seriously, I can’t handle it. I have blog commitment issues!

Am I alone? Do you have blog commitment issues?

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Berls has been a book lover her whole life. She reads pretty much every genre and is currently working hard at making her childhood dream of becoming an author come true. She loves sharing her thoughts about books, blogging, and just random fun stuff. She's a challenge and read-a-thon junkie, so it's no wonder that she loves co-hosting the COYER reading challenge. Leave a comment, Berls is always happy to chat!

8 Responses to “Do you have blog commitment issues?”

  1. Stephanie
    Twitter:

    The fact that I’m replying to this 6 months after the fact should speak volumes! I find that I love the idea of order and lists and hitting deadlines but am actually to lazy (or overly ambitious; jury is still out on which adjective works best here) to actually meet those deadlines.

    That and I find I am highly subject to the feelings of the book blogging world and drama totally drains me of any desire to be consistent. I’m working on this. Hopefully one day when I grow up, I’ll be able to be consistent.

    For those reasons exactly I stopped taking review requests. I couldn’t keep up with the stuff I wanted to read let alone the extra stuff. It feels good but I occasionally still get the itch to go on a requesting spree!

    Great post by the way!
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  2. Melanie Simmons
    Twitter:

    I don’t accept anything that has a deadline attached to it. If I do a blog tour (which is really rare), I don’t always have a review to go with it. Since I do so few requests, I don’t get too far behind, mostly. But I do have a book that I’ve had a for a long while. It is 1000 pages and I haven’t had the time to take on a book of that size. I’m going to read it on my vacation next month. I want to give it the best shot possible, and that won’t be reading a few pages at a time. Luckily, with audiobooks, I can listen to them faster than I can review them. I just don’t have the energy to blog more than I currently do.
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    • Berls

      Oh wow! 1000 pages… I dont know if I could take that on these days! I hope you get to really enjoy it next month on your vacation 🙂

  3. Lola
    Twitter:

    As a tour organizer I can only imagine how bad people feel when they have to let me know they didn’t enjoy a book. But I much rather have that happen than if they don’t post and never let me know why. And I think it’s totally fair to drop out of a tour when you don’t enjoy a book as I agree it feels phony when you’re posting about a book you didn’t enjoy. And if someone for some reason can’t review the book by the tour date I also don’t worry too much about that, although it would be nice if they do review it eventually as that’s why they did get a review copy. In fact as long as people just communicate with me I am pretty flexible with things. But that’s my five cents from a tour organizer point of view.

    On my review policy I basically say I am a moodreader and can read your book in days, but it can also take years. So if people send me a review request I assume they have read that and thus agree with it. It’s not 100% perfect as I still feel bad when I read a book years after having received it, but it does give me some pace of mind.

    Same with netgalley and other review opportunities that don’t have a deadline. I don’t feel as bad for accepting them when there is no clear deadline. And I think most authors are very understanding about things like this. I do join a tour now and then when it’s a book I really want to read and know I can read it in time, but I accept very few books with deadlines for the review as I know it will stress me out. But if I read a review book before the release day I do try and schedule it on the release day if possible.
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  4. anna

    LOL on your commitment issues. I did blog tours for a short time but bailed on them because of stress a few years earlier and man it made tings much easier. I don’t promise by a certain date either but I try to schedule on my own so there aren’t open ended ones.

    Funny on your reply emails! I totally ignore those that come through which has been helping me tame my pile. Whew!
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  5. Katherine
    Twitter:

    This isn’t my particular issue but I know several people who do share in your struggle! I have been working on moderation for blog tours and author requests because I’m drowning! I’ve also gotten super careful about what books I accept for a tour and for the most part only work with authors that I’ve read before. I do only work with tour companies that stress that they’re looking for honest reviews but it’s still pretty hard! Love this post! I love seeing other people’s issues. It makes me feel like I’m not alone!
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  6. Bookworm Brandee

    LOL I love that response to review requests. I might have to borrow part of that…the part where I make no promises about when I’ll get it read. 😀 I am right there with you on blog tours and the stress and pressure to read and review…I stopped. I had to. I still don’t know how either of us got all that accomplished. But I decided that I’d rather work at reading things I already have, read authors I know I love, and try some of those new-to-me authors that I got on the cheap. Much less pressure and stress which makes blogging much more enjoyable. 😉 I still have a backlog of books I accepted for review (not blog tours) and some day, maybe, I’ll get to ’em. There’s a reason I accepted them, right? LOL So yes, apparently I do have blog commitment issues. Or I did. I try to stay away from commitments these days. 😀
    Great post, Berls. I enjoyed Anna’s post as well but left it feeling like I fail since I’m nowhere near as organized as she is! LOL {{{hugs}}}
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  7. Greg

    I imagine this is pretty common- I don’t think you’re alone! It’s hard to keep up with everything. I don’t do tours or even ARC’s really because I a mood reader and I have to go at my own pace, so I just don’t commit to that stuff. So that works for me but wouldn’t for everyone. I think authors largely understand too that book blogging is a hobby/ not a paying job for most of us and they tend to factor that in- I think. Definitely get what you’re saying though.

    Book blogging is not for the faint of heart. 🙂 There’s so much to juggle!
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