Join me as I ask a Fun Question that’s been on my mind. I’ll give you my take, but I really hope you’ll jump in with your answers too, since I’m really curious to know what my fellow readers and bloggers think! So today’s question is…
Do you comment back?
I may make myself wildly unpopular with this post, but let me start by saying that I am by no means trying to cast any sort of judgemet. I am simply explaining my own rationale.
So.. my short answer is, no, I don’t. But the real answer is way more complex than that.
I used to comment back. You commented on my blog and then I came to your blog and commented. Period. No exceptions. This was especially true when I first started blogging. I knew no one and commenting on other people’s blogs was a great way to get to know them and I loved it when they would visit me back. But then a few things happened.
First, and most importantly, I started building blogging friendships. There were bloggers that I want to visit as often as possible, regardless of them visiting me or not. But a girl only has so many hours in the day. I had a choice to make, visit those who I had built a relationship with or visit everyone who left a comment. For me the choice was easy – relationships first and then go to the new visitors when and if I had time.
The other thing that happened was that I started noticing something. There were some people who came and left what I can only describe as “come visit my blog” comments. Comments where they clearly hadn’t read my post and really weren’t interested in engaging with me. They just wanted me to come visit them. Well I don’t leave those kinds of comments. So why should I go spend the time to thoughtfully read their blog and leave a real comment, when they don’t actually have any interest in creating a relationship?
Because to me, that’s what commenting is about. It’s not about getting someone to come visit your blog (though, yes, I’m sure that’s how it started for me) and it’s not about numbers. It’s about realtionships. It’s about this awesome community and building connections within it.
And that’s why the more complex answer would be, not necessarily, but sometimes. If I’m super bogged down, as I have been lately, it’s really hard for me to visit anyone (which I’m trying really hard to change). But even lately, when I get a comment from a new face and I can tell they are trying to build a connection – I most definitley do my best to comment back. And I don’t mean a long comment. It doesn’t have to be long to be meaningful. It just shows me that you actually read my post. Sometimes it’s as simple as “I feel the same way about x! blah blah blah happened to me.” Lol obviously x and blah blah blah need some details 😉 but you get what I’m saying… right? Also, if I see someone coming over and over again, I’m going to visit you. You’re making an effort, so I will too. Period. Even if I’m not feeling a connection from the comments. The point is you want to try and make one, so I will too.
But I should say that if you’ve commented on my blog and I haven’t commented back, please don’t assume I didn’t appreciate your comment. As I mentioned, latley I’ve been a very VERY sucky blogger. I haven’t visited hardly anyone – not those I’ve built relationships with, let alone commented back to those really genuine comments from new-to-me bloggers that DESERVE a comment back. And for that, I’m sorry. I’m trying super duper hard to fix that. It’s a 2016 goal of mine because these relationships I’ve built and could still build really matter to me!
I love comments and hope that this post doesn’t make everyone decide they don’t want to comment on my blog anymore. I’m just saying that I think they should be part of relationship building process, not a getting visitors to your blog process. That’s all. 🙂
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