Do you comment back?

January 5, 2016 Fun Questions 57

Fun Questions LogoJoin me as I ask a Fun Question that’s been on my mind. I’ll give you my take, but I really hope you’ll jump in with your answers too, since I’m really curious to know what my fellow readers and bloggers think! So today’s question is…

Do you comment back?

I may make myself wildly unpopular with this post, but let me start by saying that I am by no means trying to cast any sort of judgemet. I am simply explaining my own rationale.

So.. my short answer is, no, I don’t. But the real answer is way more complex than that.

I used to comment back. You commented on my blog and then I came to your blog and commented. Period. No exceptions. This was especially true when I first started blogging. I knew no one and commenting on other people’s blogs was a great way to get to know them and I loved it when they would visit me back. But then a few things happened.

First, and most importantly, I started building blogging friendships. There were bloggers that I want to visit as often as possible, regardless of them visiting me or not. But a girl only has so many hours in the day. I had a choice to make, visit those who I had built a relationship with or visit everyone who left a comment. For me the choice was easy – relationships first and then go to the new visitors when and if I had time.

The other thing that happened was that I started noticing something. There were some people who came and left what I can only describe as “come visit my blog” comments. Comments where they clearly hadn’t read my post and really weren’t interested in engaging with me. They just wanted me to come visit them. Well I don’t leave those kinds of comments. So why should I go spend the time to thoughtfully read their blog and leave a real comment, when they don’t actually have any interest in creating a relationship?

Because to me, that’s what commenting is about. It’s not about getting someone to come visit your blog (though, yes, I’m sure that’s how it started for me) and it’s not about numbers. It’s about realtionships. It’s about this awesome community and building connections within it.

And that’s why the more complex answer would be, not necessarily, but sometimes. If I’m super bogged down, as I have been lately, it’s really hard for me to visit anyone (which I’m trying really hard to change). But even lately, when I get a comment from a new face and I can tell they are trying to build a connection – I most definitley do my best to comment back. And I don’t mean a long comment. It doesn’t have to be long to be meaningful. It just shows me that you actually read my post. Sometimes it’s as simple as “I feel the same way about x! blah blah blah happened to me.” Lol obviously x and blah blah blah need some details 😉 but you get what I’m saying… right? Also, if I see someone coming over and over again, I’m going to visit you. You’re making an effort, so I will too. Period. Even if I’m not feeling a connection from the comments. The point is you want to try and make one, so I will too.

But I should say that if you’ve commented on my blog and I haven’t commented back, please don’t assume I didn’t appreciate your comment. As I mentioned, latley I’ve been a very VERY sucky blogger. I haven’t visited hardly anyone – not those I’ve built relationships with, let alone commented back to those really genuine comments from new-to-me bloggers that DESERVE a comment back. And for that, I’m sorry. I’m trying super duper hard to fix that. It’s a 2016 goal of mine because these relationships I’ve built and could still build really matter to me!

I love comments and hope that this post doesn’t make everyone decide they don’t want to comment on my blog anymore. I’m just saying that I think they should be part of relationship building process, not a getting visitors to your blog process. That’s all. 🙂

So do you comment back? How do you feel about comments?

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57 Responses to “Do you comment back?”

  1. Kim Smith

    Thanks for writing this.
    I am new to blogging – I am a professional photographer and I have a blog on my website, which I haven’t used much in the past, but this year one of my goals is to blog several times per month to drive traffic and improve my SEO.

    I’m following a lot of successful blogs in all sorts of different genres to try to learn who is doing it well and how I can emulate their success.
    Blog etiquette discussions like this are invaluable to newbie bloggers like me who just don’t really know the ropes yet!

    Thanks again!
    Kim Smith recently posted…Valentine’s Day in St. Louis: what to do & where to beMy Profile

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I’m glad I could be of some help! Good luck with your blog – getting out there and commenting is probably one of the best ways to drive traffic to your blog, especially if you’re participating in a meme. But memes can bring a lot of that traffic that isn’t authentic too – which is why I did a lot more of them when I started blogging than I so now. Anyway, good luck and thanks for stopping by!

  2. Stephanie Once Upon a Chapter
    Twitter:

    I absolutely agree! I made myself crazy last year trying to get to all the blogs because that would generate traffic on my blog. I always left genuine comments but it I’m being honest it wasn’t because I desired a real relationship with the blogger.

    At the end of 2015 I realized what I was doing. This year I want to make actual relationships and if the comments come on my blog great. If not, that’s fine too! I’m commenting because I want to not because I feel like it will benefit me. I hope that makes sense and doesn’t make me sound like a horrible person. In Feedly I now have about 20% of the blogs that I did. After the purge, those blogs were out in a folder labeled “My Community” and those blogs are going to be my priority. I’m still going to reach out to new faces but I want to build and maintain my relationships with those bloggers.

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Doesn’t make you horrible at all – I think we’ve all done exactly that. And really, you have to when you get started because how else will you meet the bloggers you do want relationships with? But at some point, I think it becomes about those relationships and not driving traffic. I know that’s the case for me. I could care less about my blogs traffic now – I’m not going to make money and I know it, so I don’t pay attention to stats. They don’t matter. The relationships do though. Hope your goal is working out better for you this year 🙂

  3. Jen Twimom
    Twitter:

    Happy New Year! So when I saw the title of the post, I thought it was going to be about replying to comments people leave on your posts, not going to other blogs!

    I pretty much agree with your reasoning and that is what I do. I have a handful of blogs that I visit and leave comments. I have another set that I visit but don’t leave comments. Then there is the set that I try to get to if I have time, but they are the lower tier ones. Those tend to be people I used to visit a lot, but our tastes in books have changed, or such.

    I also have started leaving comments on FitReader blogs b/c that is part of the support network. I don’t expect anyone to comment back on my site, but I do appreciate it – because like you said… it’s a way to develop friendships outside of Twitter, FB, etc.

    Nice post!
    Jen Twimom recently posted…Listen Up! #Audiobook Review: Bound SeriesMy Profile

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Thanks Jen. Yeah, replying to comments is a whole separate issue for me. I firmly believe I should reply to every true comment on my blog, but (as Im sure you know as a frequent commenter) I suck at it. I just can’t keep up 🙁 but visiting back is where I don’t feel as guilty. I want to build relationships, so I try to visit back. But, like you, I don’t visit with expectation of a return visit and no longer feel obligated to visit everyone that comments on my blog. My guilt is blogging in general these days… I just suck at the whole thing because of time!

  4. Marsha @ KeeperBookshelf
    Twitter:

    I have to answer honestly “yes” and “no”. I will always reply to comments made on my blog(s). But I do not always have the time at that moment to return the visit. Honestly, I always feel a bit guilty about that, but there are only so many hours in the day to blog and live life. I will hop over for a look at an interesting CommentLuv link but again there’s that time thing. I absolutely hate, despise and ignore the “come visit me” comments. If you cannot be bothered to actually say something – then I cannot be bothered to visit. It’s that simple. I have really pulled back on the memes as well because of time. I love the community of people I follow, (waves to Anna & Lexxie up there) and yes I will check out an obviously new blogger to help (my blog is only a year old). I’m finding more comments and connections through Twitter lately – which frankly amazes me. Oh, and you don’t have to come visit, it’s okay – I fully understand that time thing. 🙂
    Marsha recently posted…Heir To The Duke by Jane AshfordMy Profile

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Lmao thanks for understanding! Comments like yours make me want to find time to visit because I think “now that’s someone I could really have fun getting to know!” but it is so hard, like you said, to find the time. But yeah, those come visit me comments are old and frustrating at this point. It’s why I don’t link up to some memes I do. I figure the people I talk to will be by regardless of my linking up.

  5. Trish

    Like you Berls, I used to comment back on everyone who visited. And I made fantastic blogging friendships that way. But now I struggle to do that, last year I felt so much guilt about replying to comments that it made me want to stop blogging so now I just do my best and try not to worry beyond that. There are only so many hours in the day and I can’t do all I want to do. So I just try slow and steady.
    Trish recently posted…The Sunday Post : Get your Bookish News #BeginingsMy Profile

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I completely understand how you feel – I’ve suffered from similar guilt and wondered if I was a such a bad blogger that I should quit. But now I’m over it and I’m just trying to enjoy blogging and the friendships I have made. No sense beating myself up.

  6. Terri M., the Director
    Twitter:

    Yes and No.

    If you comment on my site, I’m not necessarily going to comment on yours. It is why I uninstalled CommentLuv.

    Now if you comment on my site and I’ve seen you around in the blogosphere/subscribe to your blog, I’m more likely to visit your site and comment.

    I only have so many hours in the day and I can’t visit all the places and do all the things. I’m also more likely to unsubscribe from your blog if I’m not feeling “loved”–getting quality content from you, getting no replies on my comments or comments from you on my site. Unless, of course, say you’re blog is wildly popular (PaperFury for example) and there is now way on God’s Green earth you could respond to everyone.
    Terri M., the Director recently posted…Shannon Ryan, author | In the Spotlight InterviewMy Profile

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Lol I know exactly what you mean about those widely popular sites. I can’t even imagine. I would never want to be so big, personally. I agree though, there really is only so much time and we can only do so much. It’s a big part of why I stopped trying to do it all. If someone visits a lot, they’re on my feedly list and should get visits sometimes, though maybe not as often as they visit me. Depends on how much I get around (which has not been much at all lately. I’m starting to do better I hope!

  7. Shelly

    I don’t comment back, or visit the visitors site and leave a comment for some reason, it never occurred to me that I should. You have opened my eyes and commenting back and visiting the commenter’s site makes sense!

    I have a new blog and I’ll start returning comments, this will be easy since I only have three comments. My 10-year-old blogs, which I no longer update, I probably won’t comment back or visit the commenter’s site. Like you said, there’s only so much time in a day, and you have to have priorities.

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      So true! I forgot where I learned that commenting back was a good idea, but it was early on in my blogging. For a while I thought it was something I had to do, but I’ve come to realize I can’t always and to prioritize. Thanks for stopping by!

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Yeah it can be really hard to get to everyone when a Posta gets a lot of comments (like this one is getting, for example). I think it’s nice to have the conversation the ensues from visiting back genuine comments though – it’s the ones where someone didn’t read at all that I’ve stopped bothering with all together. The others, I try, but time has not been on my side lately. Fingers crossed I get better at it!

  8. Anya @ On Starships and Dragonwings

    Yeah, I struggle with this issue and have gone back and forth. At first I was excited about the idea of commenting back since it can help me keep the conversation going when normally I just forget to visit around at blogs. Then I started running into some blogs where there was just nothing that I felt I could meaningful comment back on because they were mostly promo and filler type posts that I had no opinion on. I’ve settled on not beating myself up about not commenting if I can’t find something on the front page that looks interesting, though I generally at least still check. That’s only when I’m feeling on top of things though, some months it was all I could do to respond to comments on my blog within a month, let alone visit back. And I’m really sorry that I just completely stopped visiting any blogs including you in December D: But I think I’m back now, I think life is more under control haha.
    Anya recently posted…Waiting on… The Last Days of Magic and The Crimson SkewMy Profile

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Lol don’t feel bad, I pretty much stopped visiting and posting for most of September – December. There were a few times I managed to post for a few days and visit a couple blogs but teaching has been a time suck and a half. I think I’m back too 🙂 anyway, yes I know what you mean about not seeing anything to comment on. I’ve had the same problem many times.

    • Katie @ Doing Dewey

      I do the same thing, Anya 🙂 I try to reply to all comments (with the exception of the “Come visit my blog” kind that you mention, Berl), but if I can’t find anything meaningful to say on the most recent 5 or 10 posts, I let myself off the hook for that one. I’d rather not leave a comment than leave a meaningless one.
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      • Berls
        Twitter:

        I agree completely. I wish I could say I was good at visiting back on everyone that deserves a visit, but these days replying to the comment itself is success. Just not enough hours in the day!

  9. Lexxie

    I do my very best to answer comments on my blog, and I actually do visit mosts of the commenters back. And if I find a post of theirs I feel like I can add something to, I will comment. However, I will not comment just anything to show that I came there… And yeah, those comments basically saying ‘come to my blog’ will not necessarily even get me to click the link to their blog.
    I know all about being very busy, and I completely understand when the actual world take up so much of our time we just can’t handle visit everybody we love in the virtual world. I think this happens to all of us every now and then, though, and bloggers are understanding when it comes to time commitments.
    In the beginning of my blogging, I would visit so many blogs, and comment, and get to know people because I wanted those connections, I have them now, though. So for new bloggers, I guess leaving comments that make me want to check out their blog will work, because there’s always room for more blogging friends 😀
    Great post, Berls!
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I think you hit the nail on the head for me Lexxie. That’s very much how I feel – as a newer blogger visiting back is how you make those connections but once you have them, you don’t even need to visit back because you already follow the people commenting. New visitors do get a visit from me, if I have time (lol lately) and I can find something I’m interested in to comment on.

  10. Barb(boxermommyreads)
    Twitter:

    Great post. When people leave comments on my blog, if I feel I have something to add, or else they’ve asked a question, I usually try to respond. Like you mentioned, I have a set of blogs I visit more frequently, but I feel that overall, I comment when I have something to say or add. I don’t get offended when people do not comment back. I think comments are nice because it means people are usually interesting in some of your content. It takes a lot of time to leave comments on every blog visited, and face it, sometimes you just don’t have anything to say so I am not going to create something just to add a comment. If I visit it regularly enough, eventually I end up making some comments on something that catches my fancy.
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I agree commenting does take a lot of time! I try to share when I visit someone’s blog so they know I read and enjoyed, even if I don’t comment. Like you said, there’s not always something to add!

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Boy do I understand that! Once upon a time I aspired to answering all comments and visiting everyone who visited me. But I’ve had to accept that I just can’t pull it off and go easy on myself. But I still try to reply as much as I possibly can. I wish that posting less solved the problem for me, but I find that the less I post, the more I feel disconnected from my blog and therefore less motivated to be part of the community, which sucks because I love it. Makes no sense huh?

      • A Voracious Reader

        Posting less for me means I just changed my schedule. Instead of every day I do M-W-F one week and T-TH-S the next with a Sunday post every week. There may be an odd post thrown in occasionally, but since I implemented this schedule late last year I’ve felt more relaxed. 🙂
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  11. Angie F.

    I have never done the comment back thing. But if someone leaves a comment and their CommentLuv link catches my interest, then I will visit them. I might comment, I might not. I do always reply to my comments though. I’m just a crapper commenter when it comes to other blogs.

    I absolutely hate the “come visit my blog” type comments! I won’t visit! Simple as that. If they don’t put in the effort to actually read my post and leave a proper response, why would they expect me to visit them and leave a comment? It doesn’t make sense and really is a waste of their time. And sadly I have even seen copy/pasted comments from one blogger doing just that! They left the comment on my blog and then I saw it on a few other blogs (it was a meme day). *shakes head in shame*
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I’ve seen the same thing Angie and it frustrated me because I had spent quality time replying to comments on their blog. I stopped visiting just because they stopped by and they don’t really visit me anymore. Which is fine I guess, since we weren’t building a relationship anyway 🙁

  12. Charlie @ Girl of 1000 Wonders
    Twitter:

    Last year – I mean, 2014 – I really started understanding the mechanics of blogging, and how to build a blogging community. I started slowly commenting back. SLOWLY. Fast forward to now and I try to reply to nearly all my comments and go visit them back. However, I’ve noticed the same thing, Berls! People leave very blase comments, or one in particular that I see the on all posts they visit. It’s a very distinct opener…That bugs me. Clearly didn’t read my post. I’m making another resolution to be more like you. I am tired of wasting my time on bait comments, when they clearly have no interest in fostering a blogging community with me.

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I think visiting back helps to build relationships and should totally be done when someone stops by and leaves a genuine comment. I wish I always did that, but time just doesn’t always allow it. And it is the way to build a blog following, for sure! As an “established” Blogger – I say that in the sense that I have been at it for a whole and have genuine followers, not in the sense that I’m anything to special lol – I also feel a responsibility to pay it back by visiting new blogs and welcoming them to the community. I know hard it is to find your way in!

  13. Rachael Turns Pages

    I really do just want people to come visit my blog because they want to come visit my blog not just because I left a comment on their blog. The short answer is no I do not always comment back. If I feel like checking out the other person’s blog then I will, but if I don’t then I don’t. I want people to comment on my blog because they enjoyed the content. Like you I’m looking for those relationships not just a comment for comment system.
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Exactly! I’m so glad I’m not alone is this – I don’t want to be that evil blogger who won’t comment back lol

  14. Lauren @ My Expanding Bookshelf
    Twitter:

    I’m in two minds over this. I do try to comment back but not only is it really hard to find time to respond at the moment, I also don’t want to comment just for the sake of commenting. If I see a post that really interests me, then, of course, I will comment.

    I will definitely always, eventually, reply to comments on my blog. Even if it does take me a few weeks to do so. I’m trying to get better, though.
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Ditto on both counts – the time factor is hard and commenting for the sake of commenting is pointless. I wish I could say I always reply – it’s something I really want to do, but I fall horribly behind frequently and just can’t catch up. It’s a big problem for me and I haven’t figured out how to fix it.

  15. Lola
    Twitter:

    Great post! I do comment back and make it my priority even over visiting blogs by friend,s although I usually try and do both. My reason for commenting back is that when someone has taken the time to leave a comment on my blog I want to return that favor even if it’s a small coment that’s basically come visit my blog. I try and leave a comment back and either never heard from them again or maybe I do build a relationship with them.
    I do see your point and on the other hand I do think people shouldn’t comment back just for the sake of commenting back, but because they want to comment on that blog. But for me it helps to set that rule for myself and keep to it.

    I did learn that comments don’t always have to be long to be real or meaningfull. I forced myself to leave long comments for a long time as I thought only then they would be meaningfull, but I’ve gotten less strict with myself as sometimes a short comment is enough and can still be meaningfull. If I don’t have anything more to say, why should I force myself to do so? And sometimes I do have more to say and they end up like long comments like this one ;).

    There are also bloggers I visit again and again even if they don’t comment back and I don’t mind that either, as long as I like their blog or still feel like I connect with them in some way. I know that not everyone has time to comment back and I know how time intensive it is. There are also bloggers who don’t reply, but do comment back. I guess everyone handles comments in a different way and do what works for them best. And in general I know that most peoeple appreciate comments.

    I do totally agree with you that blogging is about relationships and making friends, not comments. Although often comments are part of that. There are people with whom I have a relationship even while I don’t comment on their blog as often and that’s okay too. This is a great and thought provoking post Berls!
    Lola recently posted…Lola’s Advice: How to get more Reviews for your BookMy Profile

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Thank you Lola! I wish I could be like you – I don’t know how you manage all you do! I just don’t have the time to pull off visiting everyone, so I had to draw my line. But I totally agree that the effort of visiting deserves something, which is why I try really hard to reply. Let’s face it, though, I struggle with that too 🙁 it sucks to be human sometimes lol! Hope you’re have a great week!

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Yeah not having something to say is also a legitimate problem I’ve run into. I try to Tweet then at least.

  16. Michelle Albanese Parsons
    Twitter:

    You have no idea how much I love this post. I love building relationships and I am not a fan of people who come back just because I came to visit them, like you I want them to visit me because they like more or my blog and want a relationship. I know that wont happen with everyone and I do like to comment back on occasion especially if someone has visited me a lot in the last couple of days but when I visit someone I spend the time on their blog it’s not from the post that was left on Bloglovin, I actually look around and find something I like to comment on your spend time sharing posts. I do like to check out new people and I also hate when people stop by to just leave a link, I never go, sorry. But I try very hard ALWAYS to reply to comments on my blog, always! If I miss a few days I will try to go back but again sometimes real life gets in the way, it sucks but you can’t do everything and your real followers will understand.

    However it is fun once in a while to check out some of the people that visited you. In the beginning it was a way to actually find friend and sometimes it’s nice to look around for more but I will always visit those I know first and add like two or three escpecially on the Sunday Post, I like to try to find new blogs that way. I am totally rambling so I am going to do 🙂 LOVING THE SHIT OUT OF THE POST SERIOUSLY!
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Lol I was thinking of you when I wrote it because we’ve had this discussion a few times. The link comments really bug me. Why not just say “hi, I want you to visit me. Thanks” lol

  17. Melanie Simmons
    Twitter:

    I’m somewhere in the middle. I do comment back on many, but not all. But at the same time, I do get frustrated if I go to a blog over and over again and they never ever comment back on my blog. Or worse, respond to my comment on their own blog. I don’t expect a comment for every comment, but if I’m a regular visitor, it is always nice to at least stop by and make an appearance once and awhile.

    I usually add people who comment into my bloglovin so that I can see when they have new posts, then when a post is interesting to me, I can comment on it. I don’t like to comment on reviews for books that I know I’m never going to read, say a historical romance or a contemporary.

    I rarely leave a comment that says “I’m glad you enjoyed this, but it really doesn’t sound like something I’m interested in.” Where is the value in that? I’ve gotten into discussions about why the reviewer didn’t like a book, because of this or that and that I wouldn’t read it either. That’s something different.

    I guess, what I’m saying is that I understand that we all are busy and I agree that it is wasteful to comment for commenting’s sake. But in my opinion, if someone is coming to your blog all the time and leaving thoughtful comments, you should respond, at least on occasion. I’m not saying you’re not one of those people. I’m not saying that people should do it for every comment that is left as a 1-1 ratio. But if I comment many, many times, and I never see you on my site ever, I might remove you from my bloglovin list. I mean, isn’t conversations about books the entire point about blogging, how do you converse if you’re not commenting?
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Agreed. And while I know you said you aren’t saying I’m not one of those people, I often feel guilty because I don’t visit enough. But that’s kind of why I have this rule about not just commenting back to every comment. Because I have put frequent commenters into my feedly and I feel I should use the little bit of time I do have to comment on their posts rather than someone who just stopped by. I still don’t make it to my frequent commenters – people I’m trying to have blogging relationships with, like you! – nearly often enough. Until the day I’m fulfilling those like I want to, I’m going to be picky about commenting back.

  18. Bookworm Brandee

    I understand what you’re saying about those ‘come visit me’ comments. Those have always kinda irritated me because like you said, when I comment I take the time to read the post and leave a meaningful comment. It took me a long time to get up the nerve to comment on blogs but, as you know, I like to talk books so when I comment, I *comment*. 😉 I’m not the best at commenting back on my blog. It’s a goal I’m working on because I think it’s important. However, I do typically visit those who are commenting on my blog because they’re those of you whom I’ve built relationships with. So even if I don’t comment back on my blog, I’m still having conversations with those commenters.
    This is a great post, Berls. It’s something I think about often and it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one. 😀 Happy Tuesday! {{{hugs}}}
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I try to put frequent commenters into my feedly account so that I’ll make it them periodically – so it’s not a comment back situation exactly, but it is me paying attention to their frequency I guess. Problem is, most my frequent commenters are much MUCH better at commenting and visiting than I am. I think y’all are super human or have figured out how to pause time or something! Because I just can’t seem to pull it off! Hope you’re have a great week Brandee! Hugs 🙂

  19. anna (herding cats & burning soup)

    Hrms. I do comment back if I know the person is a blogger. I’ll add them to a folder in my feed reader and check in within a couple days if they’re a new to me blog. Especially if it’s obvious it’s a new blogger. I kind of feel like as an established blogger there’s a little responsibility (not in a bad way) boosting the younger bloggers. It can be a very cliquish community and scary if you’re a newbie so I try to do my part to help ease that. If it’s someone who is doing the obvious hey I’m visiting now you visit me eh I’ll probably skip them. Same with those who leave rude comments.
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I do have to agree with you 100% on the new blogger thing Anna. When someone stops by I’ve never heard of and I stop by their blog and it has the newbie look, or they say they’re new, etc, I try really hard to stop by a couple times. I know people did that for me and it’s how I found my place, so I want to pay it back. Oh and ditto on rude comments!

        • Berls
          Twitter:

          I get that! I knew some bloggers already from Shelfari and I think they were the reason I found my place so quickly. Also the decision to host COYER so quickly (sign ups began my third month of blogging) helped a lot I think. But I did also feel how hard it is to find your way – there were several bloggers I tried to connect with but never did.

  20. kayk597

    I don’t blog. Just take advantage of all the good ones out there. Obviously, I think yours comes under that description. I don’t expect answers, and I kind of get geeky and fangirl when I get one. Please keep blogging and I’ll keep reading. Thanks so much.

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Thanks Kay, I’m glad you enjoy visiting! I wish I were better at replying, but I know comments make my day, so I get how reply can do the same. It’s why I try so hard not to suck at it lol – plus I like to get to know people and have a conversation!

  21. Alicia
    Twitter:

    I always reply to comments on my blog, but I don’t often visit their blogs. Mostly because the people that comment on mine are people I already know and follow. But if a new person comes along, sometimes I’ll visit spontaneously and sometimes their recent post looks interesting so I’ll go check that out. I’ve never really thought about visiting their blog as a sort of obligatory reciprocation, but it certainly does seem like the fair thing to do. Because I don’t get that many comments anyway, I think I could probably make an effort to check out new commenters’ blogs.
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I follow most the people who come to my blog regularly, but I get a lot of off and on visits that I’m not great at following through with 🙁 I just don’t have tons of time – and I’m bad at even replying to comments. I just need more time!!

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