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News at Home: I’m healing…
It’s time to start healing, emotionally and physically. I had my surgery Friday – that pesky gallbladder is gone! – and my friend’s funeral was Saturday. The visitation was Friday night and I tried to make it… we were en route when I threw up 🙁 I’ve spent a lot of time in the car the last couple days and it does not feel good, so I’m looking forward to staying home today.
The surgery went well – I have to call to make my follow up appointment for Wednesday tomorrow – but I was out faster than expected and I was moving around pretty quickly. The anesthesiologist was better than my first surgery, IMO – I felt a lot better coming out than I remember feeling the first time. I didn’t even use a wheelchair to leave (my mom wasn’t thrilled about this, but I’m not interested in being in recovery a second longer than necessary). I’ve been in a bit of pain, but oddly not really from the incisions. My pain has all been in my chest and shoulders; they use air to blow you up for the surgery and all that air pushes up on that area. I knew this prior to surgery, but it’s been shocking how much it hurts. I’ve found that heat really helps though. I’ve been living off saltines and apple juice, but I’m ready to start trying real food.
The funeral… was rough, but good. It definitely helped me start healing. It was harder because it was the day after my surgery and we had to drive more than an hour to get there. But it was so good to see everyone, to hug, to cry together and to share memories and even laugh together. Stephanie’s husband saw me come in and pretty much dropped everyone he was talking to so that he could come hug me. He cried a bit with me and told me how glad he was that I was there – then it was time for the funeral to start. So he whispered “please share something today” and left. I didn’t know what he meant until the pastor told everyone that the family had microphones for people to come up and share memories or what Stephanie meant to them. Yikes! Public speaking is so not my thing, but since he asked and I knew it would matter to her family I did. I still don’t know exactly what I said. I know that I felt myself getting ready to blubber so I switched gears to a funny story about making cupcake monkeys for her son’s birthday party. I managed to only sort of cry, not blubber, so that was good. My mom assures me I did well. But what’s she going to tell me? You sucked? LOL!
Stephanie’s husband is doing really well considering and I feel like he and the kids are going to be okay – and that’s making me feel a lot better. When he spoke he talked about how the last four months – the four months since she started law school – she’d been training him to be a better father because it had been his turn to be single dad (she’d done single mom while he finished up his degree and they were trading now). He said how thankful he was for those four months because she was such an amazing mom and without her guidance he would have been even more ill equipped for the journey ahead. He also talked about how since the kids came he’s been second fiddle, he’s known that and he’s been okay with that. And he knows she’d throttle all of us if we don’t call him out on his mistakes. So he asked that we watch him and watch the kids and let him know if he’s screwing up because Stephanie would and the kids matter more than his pride. So yeah, they’ll be okay because he’s a good dad and yeah, we’ll all tell him. Stephanie would kill us if we didn’t. From the grave. I have no doubts. LOL.
And I have to stop this train of thought because I’m crying again. Such an emotional couple weeks!
On the school front I have to add that the kids were a spot of joy for me this past week. Yes, they were squirmy as squirmy can be. They were so ready for school to be over. But they knew I was having surgery Friday (I don’t lie to my kids, but I also didn’t explain in too much detail lol) and I also think they could sense my emotional turmoil. Because they were so gosh darn sweet. I got so many hugs! One of my kids, one that had been my absolute worst at the start of the year, has gotten to be so good and he gave me a note all crumpled up on Thursday with a giant grin on his face. He whispered, “For later!” and handed it to me. I read it when I left the room and what do you know… it said “I love you Ms. Sams.” So sweet. And so many parents were contacting me this week (because we had a holiday party, which was difficult to organize since I had to have my sub throw it instead of me because of the surgery) and they were all telling me how much their kids love me and thanking me for taking such good care of the kiddos. So school was actually really rewarding this week. Actually helped with the healing for once!
COYER kicked off yesterday and I intend to be a good participant very soon! School’s out and I’m home for two weeks! I’m already looking at a gigantic list of things I have to do – but blogging is at the top of the list. I really want to get myself setup with a full month of posts before school starts back up so that I can actually be an active blogger – visiting y’all again (I’m so sorry, especially to those of you who have visited me so faithfully these past few months!), having regular content, etc.
Out with the Old and In with the New starts tomorrow – unlike Michelle I haven’t written a single one, but I’m looking forward to recaping the year this way. It will be good to get some clarity and reminders that this whole year didn’t suck, just the last bit of it lol.
Oh and don’t forget to get those #2016HW Reading Assignment lists written and posted before the first! I still need to do mine :/
Well Um, surgery and all… but until Friday I was running around like a mad woman so lots of steps. Not much food since Friday. Hopefully I’m still losing weight but not at the top of my mind honestly…
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Out with the Old In with the New: June 2015Funeral and surgery are over. Berls is ready to start healing 🙂 Click To Tweet