Sunday Post | Healing

December 20, 2015 Sunday Post 28

Sunday Post

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News at Home: I’m healing…

It’s time to start healing, emotionally and physically. I had my surgery Friday – that pesky gallbladder is gone! – and my friend’s funeral was Saturday. The visitation was Friday night and I tried to make it… we were en route when I threw up 🙁 I’ve spent a lot of time in the car the last couple days and it does not feel good, so I’m looking forward to staying home today.

The surgery went well – I have to call to make my follow up appointment for Wednesday tomorrow – but I was out faster than expected and I was moving around pretty quickly. The anesthesiologist was better than my first surgery, IMO – I felt a lot better coming out than I remember feeling the first time. I didn’t even use a wheelchair to leave (my mom wasn’t thrilled about this, but I’m not interested in being in recovery a second longer than necessary). I’ve been in a bit of pain, but oddly not really from the incisions. My pain has all been in my chest and shoulders; they use air to blow you up for the surgery and all that air pushes up on that area. I knew this prior to surgery, but it’s been shocking how much it hurts. I’ve found that heat really helps though. I’ve been living off saltines and apple juice, but I’m ready to start trying real food.

The funeral… was rough, but good. It definitely helped me start healing. It was harder because it was the day after my surgery and we had to drive more than an hour to get there. But it was so good to see everyone, to hug, to cry together and to share memories and even laugh together. Stephanie’s husband saw me come in and pretty much dropped everyone he was talking to so that he could come hug me. He cried a bit with me and told me how glad he was that I was there – then it was time for the funeral to start. So he whispered “please share something today” and left. I didn’t know what he meant until the pastor told everyone that the family had microphones for people to come up and share memories or what Stephanie meant to them. Yikes! Public speaking is so not my thing, but since he asked and I knew it would matter to her family I did. I still don’t know exactly what I said. I know that I felt myself getting ready to blubber so I switched gears to a funny story about making cupcake monkeys for her son’s birthday party. I managed to only sort of cry, not blubber, so that was good. My mom assures me I did well. But what’s she going to tell me? You sucked? LOL!

Stephanie’s husband is doing really well considering and I feel like he and the kids are going to be okay – and that’s making me feel a lot better. When he spoke he talked about how the last four months – the four months since she started law school – she’d been training him to be a better father because it had been his turn to be single dad (she’d done single mom while he finished up his degree and they were trading now). He said how thankful he was for those four months because she was such an amazing mom and without her guidance he would have been even more ill equipped for the journey ahead. He also talked about how since the kids came he’s been second fiddle, he’s known that and he’s been okay with that. And he knows she’d throttle all of us if we don’t call him out on his mistakes. So he asked that we watch him and watch the kids and let him know if he’s screwing up because Stephanie would and the kids matter more than his pride. So yeah, they’ll be okay because he’s a good dad and yeah, we’ll all tell him. Stephanie would kill us if we didn’t. From the grave. I have no doubts. LOL.

And I have to stop this train of thought because I’m crying again. Such an emotional couple weeks!

On the school front I have to add that the kids were a spot of joy for me this past week. Yes, they were squirmy as squirmy can be. They were so ready for school to be over. But they knew I was having surgery Friday (I don’t lie to my kids, but I also didn’t explain in too much detail lol) and I also think they could sense my emotional turmoil. Because they were so gosh darn sweet. I got so many hugs! One of my kids, one that had been my absolute worst at the start of the year, has gotten to be so good and he gave me a note all crumpled up on Thursday with a giant grin on his face. He whispered, “For later!” and handed it to me. I read it when I left the room and what do you know… it said “I love you Ms. Sams.” So sweet. And so many parents were contacting me this week (because we had a holiday party, which was difficult to organize since I had to have my sub throw it instead of me because of the surgery) and they were all telling me how much their kids love me and thanking me for taking such good care of the kiddos. So school was actually really rewarding this week. Actually helped with the healing for once!

Blog News

COYER kicked off yesterday and I intend to be a good participant very soon! School’s out and I’m home for two weeks! I’m already looking at a gigantic list of things I have to do – but blogging is at the top of the list. I really want to get myself setup with a full month of posts before school starts back up so that I can actually be an active blogger – visiting y’all again (I’m so sorry, especially to those of you who have visited me so faithfully these past few months!), having regular content, etc.

Out with the Old and In with the New starts tomorrow – unlike Michelle I haven’t written a single one, but I’m looking forward to recaping the year this way. It will be good to get some clarity and reminders that this whole year didn’t suck, just the last bit of it lol.

Oh and don’t forget to get those #2016HW Reading Assignment lists written and posted before the first! I still need to do mine :/

#FitReaders Update

Well Um, surgery and all… but until Friday I was running around like a mad woman so lots of steps. Not much food since Friday. Hopefully I’m still losing weight but not at the top of my mind honestly…

Last Week on the Blog

This Week on the Blog Look For:


Sunday Post | Healing


Out with the Old In with the New: January 2015


Out with the Old In with the New: February 2015


Out with the Old In with the New: March 2015


Out with the Old In with the New: April 2015


Out with the Old In with the New: May 2015


Out with the Old In with the New: June 2015

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Berls has been a book lover her whole life. She reads pretty much every genre and is currently working hard at making her childhood dream of becoming an author come true. She loves sharing her thoughts about books, blogging, and just random fun stuff. She's a challenge and read-a-thon junkie, so it's no wonder that she loves co-hosting the COYER reading challenge. Leave a comment, Berls is always happy to chat!

28 Responses to “Sunday Post | Healing”

    • Berls

      Hugs! Thank you, I appreciate it 🙂 It’s going to be a weird Christmas, mostly because part of me still doesn’t believe she’s gone.

  1. Rachelle

    Your gallbladder surgery went much better than mine. I wonder if it’s the difference between yours being planned and mine being an emergency. I was in the hospital for 3 days before they let me go home, and then I wasn’t able to do much of anything for another 2 days. I was in pain even with the pain meds, and there’s no way I could’ve been in a car for an hour. I’m sincerely glad you were able to make it to the funeral, and as I’ve said before if you need anything, no matter what, let me know. I’ll be in Dallas for most of the week. Merry Christmas!
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    • Berls

      Oh cool! I didn’t realize you’d be in Dallas! I think emergency surgery does make a big difference ; a friend of a friend had emergency gallbladder surgery and her situation was similar to yours. But everyone I know of that had it scheduled like me had an easy surgery. Guess I’m glad I got it taken care of before it was emergency then! Any who, happy Christmas!! Hugs!

    • Berls

      Hugs!!!! Thanks Felicia I appreciate it 🙂 it was an awful lot but I’m starting to feel better now – like it was all necessary and has me on the right track. Hopefully it’ll be a good Christmas! Xoxo

    • Berls

      Thanks Melanie. Yeah, I think emotional wounds take a lot longer to heal. Fortunately the funeral did a lot to help me on that path. Happy Christmas 🙂 XOXO!

  2. Charlie @ Girl of 1000 Wonders

    When I was a junior in high school, one of my friends from summer camp died on his 18th birthday. The organization we are part of meets annually in September, and at that year’s meeting everyone kept nudging me to go up and say something during that timeslot for J.R. I just couldn’t. I was too young and scared. I am glad that you were able to share something at the funeral – it is such an emotional time, and then to be up in front of all those people expected to say something coherently – it’s a lot.

    I am glad that your kids and their parents were a comfort and uplifting to you. Rest and relax during the break. It will heal you physically and emotionally. I wish you and your family a Merry Christmas!

    • Berls

      It is really hard to go up in front of people and talk, especially when you’re an emotional mess – but I’m getting really glad I was able to as well. I think it meant a lot to the family and I felt I owed it to Stephanie. Looking forward to relaxing a bit and just recovering over break. Happy Christmas 🙂

  3. Rachael Turns Pages

    Oh my gosh I need to get those out with the old in with the new posts written. Thanks for the reminder. New button this year or the same one as last year. I have been out of the blogging loop for so long it is hard to get back in the swing of things.

    I’m so sorry about your friend. It is hard to lose people especially during the holiday season. I hope that you heal well from your surgery also.

    • Berls

      New button, Michelle needs to share it with me still actually lol 🙂 I’ll have her share it in the FB group so anyone who wants to can grab it.

      Thank you, it has been hard but I’m starting to heal. Amazing how much the funeral helped. Happy holidays 🙂

  4. Kathryn

    Love your post, always written so well. Good that surgery went well, although does not sound like a ‘breeze in the park’! Loved the bit about the students, its a part of teaching that is so rewarding, and seems to me you won big time there.
    The funeral sounds tough and sad, a big challenge for Stephanie’s husband, hopefully it is the children that will keep him going.
    Heal well.
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    • Berls

      Thank you Kathryn 🙂 I guess surgery will never be a breeze, but I’m lucky, it could have been way worse. I’m so thankful for the way things have turned around in my classroom – I actually enjoy my job now 🙂
      The funeral was definitely hard, but it was good for me too – I’m do glad I made it. I think the kids will keep him going and that’s a relief for me, I was really worried about them. Hugs! Happy Holidays 🙂

  5. Lola

    I am so glad to hear your sugery went well and I hope the last of pain goes away quickly! Good luck with the recovery.

    The funeral sounds rough, but that’s great you went up there and said somethgin about her. I am sure it meant a lot to her family. He does sound like a good dad to his kids and like he’s trying his best, but still I cna’t imagine how hard it must be for them. And for you *hugs* it must be hard to lose a friend.

    It sounds like the kids love you! That must be great to get those hugs and hear from their parents. I am happy to hear your teaching job sounds like it’s going a bit better.

    I started my first Coyer book this morning! I hope I can be a very active participant this time! Have a great week and happy holidays!
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    • Berls

      Thank you Lola! The pain medication is keeping me from feeling much pain, though it puts me to sleep too. It’s a toss up, since I would like to get some work done. The funeral was rough, but healing too. It was what I needed, I’m so glad I made it. Lol I can’t believe how far things have come with my class – the kids love me and I them – such a change!

      Enjoy your first COYER book – I’m sure you’ll rock COYER 🙂 Have a great week and happy Christmas xoxo!

  6. Bea

    *HUGS* You’ve had a lot to deal with lately. I’m glad the surgery went well and you’re healing. It’s good you were able to make the funeral, you needed it. Now rest up, get better, and try to enjoy your break.
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    • Berls

      Thank you Bea, I’m looking forward to the break. I slept most of today, so I guess I needed it. I’m ready to start moving forward and healing, that’s for sure. 🙂

    • Berls

      Thanks Stormi! I swear life beats us up sometimes doesn’t it?! But it’s in the past and I can start healing now. Hugs!! Merry Christmas xoxo 🙂

  7. A Voracious Reader

    *big squishy hugs* I’m so glad you were able to attend the funeral. Now, don’t push yourself too hard. Rest, relax and heal. We’re not upset about the lack of visiting. We know you’ve got a lot going on, so do what you can, but don’t over do it or we’ll have to get stern with you. *puts on Domme face and points finger* Now, having said that, you must drop everything and go look at my new blog design because I’m just too excited about it. *bounces in chair* LMAO

    Merry Christmas!! xoxo
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    • Berls

      Lmao I most certainly will go take a look – Michelle told me she was working on it with you so I’m excited to see 🙂 Thanks for being so understanding, I appreciate everyone’s patience with me. I’m already feeling much better so I’m thinking I’ll be full speed pretty quickly 🙂 that’s my determined voice talking! Merry Christmas xoxo!!!

  8. Lexxie

    It’s definitely been a tough few weeks for you, Berls! I’m glad the surgery is over with, and that you only had to take off from work one day – more days in Chicago in May, right?
    And I would be an emotional mess if one of my best friends had passed away like Stephanie did. I’m sure you did amazing with your few words about her at the funeral.
    Get all the rest you need, and continue to heal both physically and mentally. Sending you lots of love!
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    • Berls

      *HUGS! *Thank you Lexxie! Yes, only one day for surgery definitely makes may look more and more plausible 🙂 my brother may come too! I’ve been quite an emotional basket case, that’s for sure, but I’m getting better. Thanks so much for everything, I’m hoping things will just get better from here.

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