Why can’t I get out of my funk?

May 25, 2015 Fun Questions 36

Fun Questions LogoJoin me as I ask a Fun Question that’s been on my mind. I’ll give you my take, but I really hope you’ll jump in with your answers too, since I’m really curious to know what my fellow readers and bloggers think! So today’s question is…

Why can’t I get out of my funk?

As you’ve probably noticed I’ve taken fairly frequent blogging breaks since March. I’ve had a lot going on and that’s made blogging difficult. The thing is, having a lot going on isn’t foreign to me. I typically have a lot going on. The reality is, I’m in a funk. A blogging and reading funk. And I can’t seem to get out of it! It’s frustrating because even though I’m not always in the mood to blog or read lately, I don’t actually want to stop doing either.

I think a big part of the problem is my Type A personality. I can be a *bit* obsessive about blogging correctly. I obsess over how many unanswered comments I have. I obsess over not having time to visit other blogs. I obsess about having a certain number of posts scheduled. And since I haven’t been able to do any of those things well lately, I’ve just shut down and not blogged at all. I’ll start to think I can come back, start replying to comments or visiting posts and not get “far enough” to post.

I think I’m turning blogging into a job with requirements and expectations that I have to live up to. And that’s taking away what I love about it. So, while I can’t completely change who I am, I am going to try to relax my expectations. I’m deleting my “comments not replied to” plugin – it stresses me out because I literally can’t catch up. I’m deleting my RSS app from my phone with my daily lists of blogs to visit. I’m not going to update my Google Calendar with a schedule of posts. With the exception of The Sunday Post and COYER posts – I’m not going to have a set schedule for posts. I’ll post what I can, when I can. Which is why this post is going up at the uncharacteristic time of 8:30pm (or so). *shrug* it’s when I got the post written so it’s when I’m publishing it.

Those who know me pretty well are probably snickering because this is SO opposite of my personality. But I need to de-stress a bit and this is the only way I can think to do it. It’s not to say I won’t post frequently – I hope I will. And it’s not that I won’t reply to comments – that has always been my goal & continues to be. And it’s not that I won’t visit other blogs – that’s my favorite part and I’ve missed y’all so much! It’s just that I’m not going to OBLIGATE myself anymore. And maybe, just maybe that will get me out of my funk. We’ll see how it goes.

Have you ever gotten into a funk like mine? How’d you get out of it?

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36 Responses to “Why can’t I get out of my funk?”

  1. Farhana
    Twitter:

    I feel like most book bloggers seem to be in a funk at the moment, me included. Its difficult trying to keep a blog ongoing when you put so much time in reading and writing and then so much time in keeping up with your peers. And then there’s so little return for all your effort.

    I love that you’re being so positive about it all though. 🙂 it’s very encouraging for the rest of us in the same position! ♡
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Thanks Farhana! It’s encouraging to hear I’m not alone feeling this way. I’d gladly make blogging my full time job, but since I can’t sometimes all the other responsibilities make it hard to feel up to. I still love it though, at the end of the day 🙂

  2. Terri M., the Director
    Twitter:

    I have been in a funk, just overwhelmed with two months that suddenly got very busy! So I scaled back on my posts the last couple of weeks and that helped a lot. I also didn’t respond to comments immediately and just held on to them until I had a break in my real life.

    I’ve been working on my overview calendar the last few weekends and trying to block of holidays so I don’t feel obligated to post if I know I’m going to busy and not available. Hopefully that helps a bit.

    Terri M., the Director
    Second Run Reviews
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  3. Jen Twimom
    Twitter:

    *nods head in agreement* I think most of us bloggers have felt something like what you are going through. And the “solution” or “fix” is different for each of us. What helps for me is having others – partners – who write reviews or help with certain weekly features. And as for blog hopping – I’ve done two things to help me 1) only check my feedreader 2 times per week. and 2) group blog feeds into categories that help me prioritize which ones to read if I’m pressed for time.

    I hope you find some middle ground that makes you happy!!
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Thanks Jen! I feel like I’m doing better since relaxing the expectations a bit – I’m not feeling the pressure as much and that’s definitely helping. I need to reorganize my feed because I had everything organized by day I wanted to read posts as opposed to interest level, but I think that’s a great idea!

  4. Trish

    Comments can get me in to a funk too. Obviously I love getting them but feeling that I have to reply stresses me out. Especially as I don’t really have time to do so Mon to Thurs so they build up fast. And then I don’t know where to start; commenting, visiting, writing posts, etc and it just becomes a stress zone. So I have decided like to step back a bit and not feel I have to do it all. I just do a little whenever I have the time and even grabbing 10 minutes like I have tonight helps me feel I’m staying on top a bit. But when I’m busy doing other things, I just don’t allow blog guilty to enter the equation anymore.
    Hope you funk passes soon and that your new plan helps blogging to become something that you love to do again.
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I like that – do what you can for 10 minutes and what you don’t get done is no biggie. It’s kind of how I’m operating now. I grab a few minutes here and there and do whatever I’m in the mood for – whether it’s replying, posting, or visiting. I think I’m coming out of my funk too, so fingers crossed it’s working!

  5. A Voracious Reader

    Are we twins or what? While I’m not a type A personality, I have been feeling like my blog is a job that I don’t get paid to do. I trace my funk back to when my computer died on me. It was just the last straw. I turned to NetFlix, discovered Buffy and that made me obsessed. A good thing? Probably not in the long run. While I loved the show I’m now finding it harder than ever to get back to writing reviews (never an easy task for me as much as I do enjoy it) and doing all things blog-related such as reply to comments and visit others. It sucks. I’m right there with ya. But I think if we take it slow and not put pressure on ourselves we WILL persevere. 🙂
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Oh man, a Buffy marathon is so worth any slump though 🙂 I know what you mean about not wanting to write reviews or blog or anything. I think it was my decision to take away all my self-created rules that is finally making me want to again. Hopefully we’ll find out way back soon!

  6. Celine
    Twitter:

    What really helped for me isn’t necessarily getting rid of the expectations, but rather to lower them. I’m extremely busy right now, so I decided to only have 3 posts on my blog every week, and accomplishing that number of posts feels good instead of having the idea I’m failing at blogging.

    I hope you can find something that works for you 🙂
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Yeah, I guess that’s really what I’m doing – I’m taking away the expectation that I need a post every day and that I need that post to be scheduled way in advance or that each day has to be a specific post. instead I’m hoping to post 3-5 times a week on whatever I want to post on and not scheduled easy in advance.

  7. Bookworm Brandee

    Good for you, Berls! Honestly, I’ve been dealing with this thinking myself. I want to be able to do it all and I just can’t. I have other responsibilities with my family, etc., and it makes me feel guilty and bad about myself when I can’t get posts done, comment back, visit favorite blogs. Ugh! Yeah, it’s becoming a chore and that sucks the fun out of it. SO maybe I’ll take a page from your book. 🙂 Finding balance is hard. I’m glad you’re taking steps to de-stress yourself. I’d much rather you do this than disappear. 😉
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Thanks 🙂 Good to know I’m not alone on this – I want to be the perfect blogger but its just not possible if I’m going to be a good mom, girlfriend, daughter, sister, student, and employee. And all those things come before blogging, they have to. So I just have to figure out how to accept less than perfect – always a challenge since I’m such a perfectionist!

  8. Ramona
    Twitter:

    Destress, ducks, and take your time about it. Gosh, I didn’t even know about that plug-in, though I can certainly see the street that would bring. Blogging is supposed to be fun 🙂 Let’s have some of that fun again when you’re ready… Love ya!
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Thanks Ramona! Yeah that plugin was really great in theory, but its been stressing me out horribly! I’m ready to start having fun again – and I think that means letting go of all my self-imposed obligations. Thanks for hanging in while I get back to the fun 🙂

  9. Lexxie
    Twitter:

    *big hugs* Berls! I thought you were going to say you were in a funk because you miss me 😉 Seriously, though, blogging should definitely not feel like a job, and you are right to turn of that comment not replied thing, I only had that for a week before I deleted it from my own blog. It kept stressing me out. And I actually do end up answering comments on my blog without having that, and also without the stress!

    Reading and blogging should be fun! So you take your time, and only blog when you feel like it!
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Well there’s that of course too 😉 Why’d you leave?

      Yeah I loved the concept of the comments replied plugin, but I spend way too much time obsessing over how much I’ve failed at replying to comments. I try and I don’t think I’m horrible at replying, even if I’m also not great at it. Stressing isn’t going to solve anything!

  10. Lola
    Twitter:

    I am sorry to hear you’ve been in a reading and blogging funk, I’ve missed your posts :(. I am hoping those new changes help you get out of your blogging funk. It sounds like you are taking some good steps to make blogging less stressful, because like you said blogging should be fun.
    Just like you I am set high expectations for myself when it comes to blogging, but sometimes when I can do less on a day and I notice everyone is still there and things still are okay the next day, that helps put my mind at ease that taking it slow a few days isn’t the worst. When I am in a reading funk it can help to switch things up or read less review books and more fun books. Sometimes I feel like I treat bloggin as a job as well at times, but I still love it, so that’s good. I hope you get back into blogging and that funk will go away soon!
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Thanks Lola, it’s nice to be missed 🙂 I think we all hold ourselves to higher standards than we actually expect of our fellow bloggers. Of course I won’t stop visiting someone just because they took a few days off or didn’t reply to a few of my comments – I know it’s hard to keep up so I understand completely! I’m going to try and be a bit easier to myself – hopefully that’s the trick.

  11. kimbacaffeinate

    I think we all go through this. I stopped posting on Saturday unless I have an extra post. You know how anal I can be about commenting back and visiting but I now frequently take a day or two off here and there. I realized ya all still love me. For July and August aside from a few arcs I truly had to have I am reading from my own pile. We can turn this I into a full time job and I think pulling back is a good thing instead I ending up hated something we are passionate about.
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I always marvel at how on top of things you always are – so it’s really good to hear that you have to take a step back too sometimes 🙂 It’s too easy to turn blogging into a full-time job and that’s the last thing I want – I love it too much!

  12. Felicia The Geeky Blogger

    Secret :90 percent of my posts are both written and posted the same day. I just don’t stress over it anymore and I think it makes me a happier blogger. My biggest stress is not visiting blogs enough but I give myself a break on that now (aka I just hit mark all as read so my reader is clean for tomorrow…. I do this every night.. I get to what I can and then flush them so it doesn’t build up). Just go with the flow till your mojo is back.
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I think that’s exactly how I’m going to blog from now on – or at least until the scheduling feels good again and not like a chore. I’m going to start doing that with my reader too – clearing it out every night so that it’s not this huge stress. Glad I’m not the only one who has to approach it this way!

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      So true! I don’t know how it got to this point, but I do think I just need to step back a bit and all will be fine.

  13. Rachelle
    Twitter:

    I haven’t really been in a funk per se, but I did hit a point where it was clear I was trying to do too much and was trying to be too productive. Every part of my day was filled with activity, even after the Spring semester was finally over, I’m about to start the Summer semester, and I should be relaxing. What I did was took a couple days (ok, most of a week) to do nothing. I was lucky enough to already have a few days of posts scheduled, but I didn’t even open a single book for a couple days. Instead, I played video games. They weren’t even “complicated” video games. One of them was a kid’s game. When I woke up this morning, I felt good again and was full of energy to get stuff done.
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      I think that’s what’s happened to me, except I didn’t take that break until after I’d already hit a wall – and I just took a blogging break, not a break break. So now it’s taking longer to come back. Smart move on your part!

  14. Stormi
    Twitter:

    I am sort of in a reading funk because the books I have to read are for review so I feel like I need to read them and I don’t want too..lol. I feel like I am throwing a reading tantrum or something but I find myself organizing my books when I should be reading, or playing on the blog or instagram, or working outside anything but reading..lol. I want to read but I’m feeling like I want to read my books..which is why I am trying really hard to resist more review books.

    Hope you get out of your funk soon..miss all your post. 🙂

    Stormi
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    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Lol and what do I do? Ask if you want more review books! LOL but you’ll enjoy Shelby 🙂 I think my stance with review books had become I’ll read them when I’m in the mood – otherwise I’m just going to get stuck in review books and never read what I want.

      • Stormi
        Twitter:

        Audio reviewing is different..and I want to read Colleen’s books 🙂 I am about to that point of giving up on review books for a while and reading it when I feel like it. I was trying to be good this year and read them in the month they come out but it’s not working..ugh.
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        • Berls
          Twitter:

          I agree, I have very little trouble audio reviewing. I need to just step away from review books for a long while – they really stress me out!

  15. Angie F.

    So this is more of a funk question, than a fun question? 😛 (sorry, i couldn’t resist!)

    I can’t say that I’ve ever gotten into a blogging funk, but I do think taking a step back and just doing what you can, when you can is a good idea. Hopefully, it’ll help you find a new pace that you can keep up with along with your other life stuff.
    Angie F. recently posted…Mini Review: One Night of Sin (After Hours, #1) by Elle KennedyMy Profile

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      LOL too funny! Yeah that’s how Type A I am – I needed the post to fit into a category 🙂 I do hope the new pace will get me back to where blogging is super fun.

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