Join me every Saturday as I ask a Fun Question that’s been on my mind. I’ll give you my take, but I really hope you’ll jump in with your answers too, since I’m really curious to know what my fellow readers and bloggers think! So today’s question is…
Do you have two identities?
Okay before we get TOO excited, I’m not talking about multiple personality disorder. I guess that would make for a very interesting post, but it’s not something I’m even close to qualified to write about, despite being a Gemini who frequently is accused of having Twin moods. Instead I’m talking about a “real world” identity and a “blogger” identity. I ask this because I’ve noticed a few bloggers that post comments without a first name or anything and then there’s others who have things linked to their personal Facebook and Twitter accounts. It made me wonder how many of us are doing the two identities thing.
I’ll just start off by saying that I am. And not in the way some people might be thinking. I’m not at all interested in hiding who I am from all of you. If you go to my about page I have a picture of myself, my full real name, and even the city where I live listed. But I go by Berls with my blog. So if not trying to hide from you, why?
The reasons are many…
First off – Because there are people in my life that just aren’t cool enough to include in my blog world. These are people that I don’t particularly like (or dislike, to be fair I’m indifferent to most of them) and if they find the blog by Googling me, that’s fine. I mean if they took the time to do that, then I guess I’m flattered that they’re interested in me enough to Google me (even if for negative reasons). But I’m not advertising my blog to them. I’m a graduate student at a school where, even after three years, I just don’t belong. It’s a very good school and my degree will probably be worth a lot more from there than a lot other schools. But they are not people that I have ever felt comfortable getting to know or sharing something this personal or important with.
And that’s another reason – my blog is like a sacred (not in the religious sense) space fore me. It’s where I get to be me, 100% of the time, and to surround myself with the people that share my obsession with books. Unfortunately I don’t have many (if any, really) of those kinds of people in my face-to-face life and so this is a part of me that I don’t get to enjoy outside of the web too often. Now I have several friends that I have told about the blog because I trust them with this very personal part of myself, even if they don’t personally enjoy it. But they are a very select few and most of them don’t really pay any attention to it.
I will say that my decision to go by Berls on the blog had little to do with that second identity and more to do with being unique. Yes, it does separate me just a little bit more from the public persona that walks around and doesn’t tell the world she’s both obsessed with books and the paranormal, weird, or even erotic kind. I wanted something unique and memorable – so I went with a childhood nickname.
As a kid, I always cut the first part off of longer words – so I used to introduce myself by saying “Me Berly” and that developed into family calling my “Berls.” It’s not a nickname you hear very often. So when I was trying to think of something unique – what better than a name that was just as private and personal as my blog would be? And that’s how I came to be Berls @ Fantasy is More Fun, the bookwormier (yep I just made up that word. Go with it lol), funner, cooler, less stressed out version of me – Medieval PhD Student, Step-Mom extraordinnaire, and normal book lover.
So do you have two identities? Or does the whole world know your blogger self?