Life of a Blogger | Plans for the future

February 13, 2014 Life of a Blogger 12

Life of a Blogger is a weekly meme hosted by Jessi @ Novel Heartbeat. Each week Jessi chooses a topic (scheduled in advance) that’s not book related so we that we can get to know our fellow bloggers better – and to know more about them than just books. I’m thrilled to join in and I hope to participate every week from here on out. I hope you’ll join in too – check out the details here!

This week’s topic: Plans for the future

This is the infamous interview question. “Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years?” And the honest truth? I have no idea. I love to plan. I have calendars with goals and agendas all over them. I procrastinate by making plans to not procrastinate. And yet, when we’re talking long term, I get a bit glossy eyed and a lot uncertain.

Thankfully, my home life is one area where there’s not a lot of doubt. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 9 years now and, while I know nothing is ever certain, I don’t see that changing anytime soon. I suppose we might finally get married, but seeing as we’ve talked about that a few hundred times in the also almost 9 years we’ve lived together, I guess it’s not that high on either of our agendas. I was never the little girl who dreamed about her wedding – in fact, I think wedding and I see dollar signs, so I’m ok skipping that particular tradition. The one reason I could see us changing our mind is that we would really like to have kids – he has a son, whom I adore and consider my own, but we’d like at least one together too. But I think we’d both be thrilled if we had a child within the next couple years.

So that’s the easy stuff. The hard part is career. I think I’ve finally accepted that I am not going to find satisfaction or happiness in a career. It took moving to St. Louis and attending grad school, where I thought I’d be so happy, but I turned out to be miserable to realize this. I THOUGHT that I would love to be in academia. But turns out, while I LOVE to teach (and I hear I’m a pretty great teacher too), I ABSOLUTELY HATE research and academia. So on that front I have one goal – to finish as much as I can. That may just mean getting my Master’s degree, which I should earn in May. I think it highly unlikely that I’ll make it to my PhD, although I’m on a full fellowship and I hate to throw something like that away. So if I manage to finish my PhD, in about 4 years I’ll hopefully have a job teaching at a state university. But in the more likely event that I just get my Master’s, I hope to find a job at a university or community college, perhaps working with programs for disadvantaged youth. Hopefully something that will put my Master’s to good use. In a dream scenario, the book I’m currently working on in my spare time (now that’s a joke!) will be widely popular and I’ll be the next JKR. Since that’s even less likely than my finishing my PhD, that middle scenario sounds likely.

Ultimately, I think you can probably see that my plans for the future revolve more around family than career. A career/job is how I will support those infinitely more important goals (for me) and I guess that’s why that goal is really very unclear. How’s that for a 5/10 year plan? πŸ™‚

What are your plans for the future?


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12 Responses to “Life of a Blogger | Plans for the future”

  1. Jessi

    Good luck with all your future plans! I think my fiancΓ© and I will be looking to have babies after a couple years too πŸ™‚ It’s great that you’re in school, though…I wish I could say the same. I went for a few years and ended up dropping out because it wasn’t for me *hangs head in shame*
    And as for the book…you never know! It could definitely happen πŸ™‚
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    • Berls

      I see no shame in quitting school – it means a lot that you knew yourself enough to know that it wasn’t for you and had the guts to do what made you happy! I think we don’t trust ourselves enough because there’s so many societal expectations that we think we have to live up to. I have a friend who doesn’t want kids and she feels like she always has to explain herself – even to random strangers – because the expectation is that a married woman her age would start wanting babies. So I say “cheers! WTG” to anyone who does what’s right for them despite pressure! And that was a really long response lol… sorry!

  2. Bookworm Brandee

    LOL I love that you procrastinate by making plans to not procrastinate, Berls! I do the very same thing! πŸ™‚ And I think you’ve set some good goals for your 5/10 year plan. I don’t think you should feel too badly if you decide not to go for your PhD – you have to do what makes YOU happy. And it’s awesome you want to work with disadvantaged youth. There are many where you live.

    Your goals make me feel old. You’re just getting started and I’ll have 3 kids in college in the next 6 years. My plans kinda revolve around getting them there. πŸ™‚ I am working on a book – very slowly – so hopefully I’ll finish that with 10 years! πŸ˜‰ And then, I hope to do a lot of traveling with my husband once the kids are ‘gone’. *sniff* Although I have to admit that’s a very sad prospect…the kids being gone, not the traveling with my husband! πŸ˜‰ I guess in a way, I’ll just be getting started in the next few years too…I’m just starting the next phase!
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    • Berls

      Sounds like you’ve got wonderful plans! Sometimes I envy people in your place because your getting to the best years and it sounds like you’ve used your early years well – the most important thing to me is building a family and I’m sometimes worry we’ve waited too long to start. I’ll be 30 this year and we’re just now thinking kids – so many of my friends have a school age kid plus a toddler already…

  3. Michelle

    At least you have a direction that you want to head in. Knowing a plan of Family then career is a great start. At my age I still don’t know what I want to do. I really want to start doing my own designs but I guess I just don’t know were to start.

    Weddings are so expensive and now I realize most people usually don’t get married until they have kids and it’s usally something small with a family and close friends. I had a huge wedding because my mom wanted it. We had fun but I think you remember it better when it is small. πŸ™‚
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    • Berls

      If I had a big wedding it would be for the same reason – my mom. But thankfully (sort of) she turned my graduation from high school into a virtual wedding (Even the cake looked like a wedding cake!) so I don’t think I’ll have to go through that again. Maybe she knew me so well that she knew a big wedding was something she just wouldn’t get?

  4. Carmel

    I had a meeting earlier this week with my financial planner, and she asked me a bunch of “future plans” questions including “will you be having a baby in the next year? 2 years?…” I was kinda caught off guard. LOL We’re getting married in June so, one thing at a time! Hehe
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  5. A Voracious Reader

    I also can’t see spending mucho bucks on a wedding. I never dreamed of one and I didn’t have one. For either of my marriages. lol In fact, my husband’s friend was complaining about the expense of his vow renewal that his wife wanted for their upcoming 10-yr anniversary. I said “Vow renewal?! Did they expire? Otherwise, wtf?!” I would rather spend the money on an excellent vacation, preferably to an all-inclusive resort. lol

    Long term, well…I’m a SAHM. After our youngest graduates from high school (in 2018), we’ll see about moving west. If not, he’ll retire in about 15 years and then we’ll see about moving west again. Other than that our future planning consists of putting money into his 401(k) and watching the market. πŸ™‚
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    • Berls

      LMAO with the vow renewals! That’s something I’ve never really gotten. I get wanting to let your partner know that your still committed, but why does it have to be a big public display? I guess that’s something with me and weddings too – it’s just about me and my BF, I don’t need the rest of the world to know how we feel and I don’t need a fancy dress to show them either lol.

    • Berls

      Thanks Julie. Some days I feel way behind for my age, but others I figure it’s better to let my life unfold rather than trying to force it into some master plan.

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