Life of a Blogger | Introvert or Extrovert?

February 20, 2014 Life of a Blogger 12

Life of a Blogger is a weekly meme hosted by Jessi @ Novel Heartbeat. Each week Jessi chooses a topic (scheduled in advance) that’s not book related so we that we can get to know our fellow bloggers better – and to know more about them than just books. I’m thrilled to join in and I hope to participate every week from here on out. I hope you’ll join in too – check out the details here!

This week’s topic: Introvert or Extrovert?

Can I be obstinate and say neither? LOL, let me explain (you knew I was going to anyway, right?).

First of all, let me get technical with you and give some definitions. Sorry, it’s the academic in me. I have to make sure we’re all on the same page 🙂

Extrovert – Although they are social people by nature, that’s not all that matters when distinguishing extroverts from introverts. More importantly, extroverts are individuals who are energized be being around other people. They seek out conversation not only because they like it but it helps them think and be productive.

Introvert – basically the opposite. Introverts are not social, though they aren’t necessarily socially awkward or shy either. They gain energy from alone time – which is precious to them. Big groups are draining for them and they try to avoid those kinds of activities.

Ok yeah, I’ve really just summed up two very complex personality traits to their core basics. But even these brief definitions make my point for me. I love my alone time. I need it and cherish it. But if I’m alone for too long, it’s probably a sign I’m starting to feel a bit depressed. I love being around people and am super friendly – I easily connect with people generally. This often makes people assume I’m an extrovert. But I only thrive in big crowds if the people in those crowds are my friends. I can pretend with the best of them, but the wrong crowd can be oh so draining.

Ever take the Myers Briggs test? You know the one that gives you weird combinations of letters to define your personality? Well, mine hasn’t changed much the many times I’ve taken it over the past 15 years – except for on one letter. Guesses? Yep, the Introvert/Extrovert letter. It flips constantly. Because I’m neither. I’m both.

I recently read about a third trait that’s gaining more and more recognition. Ambivert. I think a lot of people probably fall into this category and I’m 100% certain I do. Ambiverts are described as being:

  • Equanimous – yeah, that’s mostly true of me.
  • Enjoys socializing, but also being alone at times – yep!
  • Behavioral decisions usually rely on “how one feels”, or the context of the situation. – I think this explains why  I’ve alwasy been accused of being a bit moody. I change my mind (and mood) a lot based on what’s going on.
  • Usually has a small group of friends. – I get along with a lot of people, but I really only closely associate with a few people. Remember a couple weeks I said I wanted to run away to an island with just family and a handful of friends?
  • Flexible. Yep, that’s me. Most the time.
  • Changeable. – again, I think I’ve been wrongly called moody…
  • Ability to appreciate both inner and outer worlds. Yep
  • Easygoing. Well sometimes… I guess this would fit in my changeable traits. I can be a bit high-strung too!
  • Great sales people . Okay, I HATE sales, but I’m really good at it. I’ve been a sales person more times than I’d care to admit in my life and I’ve always been a top performer. I just hated myself at the same time.

What are you? Introvert or Extrovert? Maybe an Ambivert?

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12 Responses to “Life of a Blogger | Introvert or Extrovert?”

    • Berls
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      LOL I totally makes sense to me too! Because I think that on the ambivert scale I used to be closer to extrovert but I’ve gradually been shifting closer and closer to introvert… I may have even been a true extrovert at one point in my life!

  1. Bookworm Brandee

    This is a fantastic post, Berls. I applaud your ambivert-ness! LOL I’m totally an introvert. I can and do interact with people (with the public in my job) but it totally drains me. I’ve just been discussing this with my oldest daughter…figuring out which family members are what. We have 2 introverts (my and my oldest daughter), 2 extroverts (my husband and younger daughter, and 1 ambivert (my son). Thanks for sharing this, Berls!
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    • Berls
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      Thanks Brandee! What a great mix you have in your family! Mine is not very mixed at all – my mom, dad and brother are all introverts. And my BF is also an introvert and then there’s me. I’m always the weirdo. lol

    • Berls
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      LOL I guess that was the scholar in my coming out 😉 I think I’m gradually sliding more and more towards introvert. But I’m still an ambivert. Maybe ask me again in 5 years lol

  2. Haley Keller
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    I’ve always thought of extroversion and introversion as a scale where you can fall anywhere on it. Some people, like me, fall way towards one side, like me. I am most definitely introverted, and there’s no way you’d mistake me for an extrovert. Then, there are people who are more in the middle and share a lot of the characteristics of both, like what you described. I think most people fall somewhere more towards the middle. People like me who swing way to one side are a bit less common. You mentioned the Myers-Briggs specifically, and I think everything on that test is a scale too. I’m always an introvert, but there’s another of the two (I can’t remember which two right now) that I always fall right in the middle of. I still get one the majority of the time, but the other’s always an extremely close second. (I think it might be judging/whatever goes with that one.)
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    • Normandie Alleman

      Loved this post. I’m a (currently non-practicing) psychologist and this is correct. Extraversion and Introversion occurs on a continuum with some people falling at one extreme or another, but most people falling somewhere in the middle. Another way of looking at it is that for Extraverts, their worlds exist OUTSIDE themselves – in social interactions and what happens around them. Whereas an Introvert’s world exists more INSIDE themselves – in their thoughts, imagination, reflections, etc.

      Personally I am as extraverted as possible on every scale and personality test which makes it odd that I’m now an author since most people think of writers as introverts. Go figure!
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      • Berls
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        I apologize if you get lots of notifications for a reply to this message – I was trying to reply to the comment above yours and it kept replying to you and vice versa…. anyway!

        Yay! I’m so glad that my google research paid off – since I’m certainly no authority on the matter. You’re right – we really do tend to think of writers as introverts, but I think that’s because we assume that writing is a solitary work. In a lot of ways though, it’s not. The writing part sure – but the research and editing and promotion… all that is very reliant on people skills!

    • Berls
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      I think of things in scales too – very few people are entirely one quality… polars just don’t work for describing people!

    • Berls
      Twitter:

      Ahh see I think it’s this common misconception that if you aren’t ridiculously socially awkward that your an extrovert. Just because you can do groups doesn’t mean it gives you energy – totally different things.

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