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This week’s topic: Introvert or Extrovert?
Can I be obstinate and say neither? LOL, let me explain (you knew I was going to anyway, right?).
First of all, let me get technical with you and give some definitions. Sorry, it’s the academic in me. I have to make sure we’re all on the same page 🙂
Extrovert – Although they are social people by nature, that’s not all that matters when distinguishing extroverts from introverts. More importantly, extroverts are individuals who are energized be being around other people. They seek out conversation not only because they like it but it helps them think and be productive.
Introvert – basically the opposite. Introverts are not social, though they aren’t necessarily socially awkward or shy either. They gain energy from alone time – which is precious to them. Big groups are draining for them and they try to avoid those kinds of activities.
Ok yeah, I’ve really just summed up two very complex personality traits to their core basics. But even these brief definitions make my point for me. I love my alone time. I need it and cherish it. But if I’m alone for too long, it’s probably a sign I’m starting to feel a bit depressed. I love being around people and am super friendly – I easily connect with people generally. This often makes people assume I’m an extrovert. But I only thrive in big crowds if the people in those crowds are my friends. I can pretend with the best of them, but the wrong crowd can be oh so draining.
Ever take the Myers Briggs test? You know the one that gives you weird combinations of letters to define your personality? Well, mine hasn’t changed much the many times I’ve taken it over the past 15 years – except for on one letter. Guesses? Yep, the Introvert/Extrovert letter. It flips constantly. Because I’m neither. I’m both.
I recently read about a third trait that’s gaining more and more recognition. Ambivert. I think a lot of people probably fall into this category and I’m 100% certain I do. Ambiverts are described as being:
- Equanimous – yeah, that’s mostly true of me.
- Enjoys socializing, but also being alone at times – yep!
- Behavioral decisions usually rely on “how one feels”, or the context of the situation. – I think this explains why I’ve alwasy been accused of being a bit moody. I change my mind (and mood) a lot based on what’s going on.
- Usually has a small group of friends. – I get along with a lot of people, but I really only closely associate with a few people. Remember a couple weeks I said I wanted to run away to an island with just family and a handful of friends?
- Flexible. Yep, that’s me. Most the time.
- Changeable. – again, I think I’ve been wrongly called moody…
- Ability to appreciate both inner and outer worlds. Yep
- Easygoing. Well sometimes… I guess this would fit in my changeable traits. I can be a bit high-strung too!
- Great sales people . Okay, I HATE sales, but I’m really good at it. I’ve been a sales person more times than I’d care to admit in my life and I’ve always been a top performer. I just hated myself at the same time.
What are you? Introvert or Extrovert? Maybe an Ambivert?